In a previous post, we looked at several tips for disciplining your toddler to provide you with some strategies you may not have tried yet. Since the disciplinary approach that works with one child won’t necessarily work with the next, we want to provide you with a few more tips in today’s post.
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1. Introduce Consequences
For very little children, simply telling them “no” is sufficient when you want them to stop a behavior. As they become toddlers, however, it’s important for them to learn there are natural consequences to their behaviors. For example, if your toddler insists that they get to choose their pajamas and takes forever to make a decision, then the natural consequence is that there is no longer any time to read books before bed. Make sure to let them know what the consequence will be if they do not change their behavior. When you do this, you give your child the opportunity to choose the right behavior and avoid a negative consequence.
2. Be Consistent and Don’t Give In
Young children gain a majority of their information and knowledge through observing you and the way you respond to their behavior. For example, if you say “no” at first and then give in after repeated begging or a tantrum, then they’ve learned that “no” doesn’t always mean “no.” In fact, they’ve learned that they simply need to be either persistent or annoying in order to get what they want. With that in mind, it’s important to be firm and stable in your decision.
When you create a structure of events such as dinner time, bath time, bed time, then your child learns what to expect and isn’t surprised when you tell them it’s time for bed when they get out of the bathtub. While there is certainly room for spontaneity in life, young children feel safe and secure when they know what to expect. The more they know what to expect, the less likely they are to throw a tantrum.
3. Focus on the Behavior, Not the Child
In the heat of the moment, when your child has done something awful, you might be tempted to tell them that they are bad. This statement can make a lasting mark that could cause your child to question if you truly love them. With that in mind, work on training yourself to focus on the behavior when you reprimand your child. By telling them that what they did was bad, you will communicate that you love them but not the behavior.
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